Dating for old fat ladys hyper dating


06-Jul-2016 14:13

I’ve seen so many opening lines, especially on dating sites, along the lines of Here’s the thing. You probably think that it’ll make fat girls more likely to contact you first, but honestly it’s hurting your cause more than anything. *(Note, saying things like ‘real women have curves’, ‘only dogs like bones’, ‘skinny girls are gross’ are horrible things to say. We’re real people with real personalities and feelings. Again, can’t speak for all fat girls, but lots of us have had a lot of bad experiences when it comes to dating.It makes you sound like all you care about is our bodies, that’s the most important part to you. So during a first conversation, again, you don’t have to qualify why you’re talking to her. You are more than welcome to have your preferences, but putting down other body types or other people’s preferences is NOT okay. Men who’ll talk the good talk but won’t be seen with us in public, men who’ll have sex with us but make fun of fat girls to their friends, men who think we’re ‘desperate’ and ‘easy’ and just a quick lay. If you don’t think there are guys out there who like fat girls, you are so wrong.Being a fat bastard doesn't mean you have to be single forever.It also doesn't mean you have to get in shape to find a date.Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime's worth of misconceptions and jealousies.Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast.If you are fat like me, or used to be like some other lucky ex-members of our club who probably bribed the weighing scale to flash skinny, you know the forever-itch to lose weight. Shedding those extra pounds so we don’t have to hide in the shadows, be whisked to dorm rooms and apartments under the cover of night, and then, sent right back in the wee hours of the morning lest some frat bro or roommate belittle the conquest of our douchebag date, used to be our ONLY wish in life. No, I am not ranting – coz I myself find the bitter ‘’ kind of token consolatory refrains mean and derogatory! But there is an undeniable stigma attached to dating a fat girl – like we can be ‘oodles’ of fun to pick for a night but never worthy of being on your arm on date nights or introduced to your friends, much less grace wedding pictures! Or even if you do, you have the know-how for dating one. I am also done dating the tonnes of others who’d deny that I am fat and insist that I am beautiful! To the men – Dating a fat girl may not fall under your quintessential notion of ‘achievement.’ But who made skinny girls queens of the world anyway!

Dudes tend to assume that I haven't dated a lot in my life -- or the opposite, that I'm always up for casual sex because I'm desperate for attention.

They often come into a relationship believing that my past partners have been abusive or unfaithful, or that my current partner isn't interested in sex and that's why we're poly.